I’ve been thinking about getting some of the fashion type two sided tape to try on my neck too, to hold the scarves in place at the top of my neck as they tend to flop or slip down.

Also, I have noticed that if I tie the knot in the scarf on the right instead of in the middle of my neck, the knot helps cover a lot more of the scar.

Meanwhile I am putting some expensive olive oil treatment for stressed skin 3 times a day also. I found the oil on HSN and it is really practical as it goes a long way, and in the kit I bought there are several oils with replenishing formulas and so I hope that is going to help my scars heal more invisibly or at least make them look less noticeable.

In the winter I am going to try to find extra high turtlenecks, but find them in a soft knit so I won’t get too hot as I am very warm natured.

I hope you are well and all went great for your surgery. I was very blessed as I did not have to have radiation or chemotherapy, but I know so many times these things come back and so I am trying to watch my nutrition closely, take good, natural supplements, lots of Vitamin E and some liquid minerals. I feel these supplements saved my life, actually, because the cancer did not spread to the lymph nodes and I hope you had good news too.

I will keep you in my prayers. I know we should not be so vain with so many people who are terribly disfigured, but it is not wrong to want to look our best even if we have short necks as I do – and I also have a very very small chin, so a scarf makes me look like I kinda over-dressed, but I don’t care. People aren’t looking at us that much as we think. A LOT of people are unattractive, but I’m telling you, a nice, sincere, though crooked smile can be such a gift to someone and compensate for any amount of scars we may have – as well as make others grateful instead of complaining about so much.

Nobody ever told my mom to keep her neck covered for a year, wow. She actually kept hers exposed because it bothered her to have anything near the area they cut. I wonder if it would of made any difference for her, hmm.

I think focusing on little things is common. I know when I had to go for a biopsy, I thought for sure I had it. I kept worrying about really little minor things.

Well take care hun!

I’m really no help but I did just go through this with another friend of mine – she had stage 3 something or another in a brain tumor (and 3 little girls at home – Carter’s age and younger)

I will ask her where she got the super-dooper-cute’r scarves she always sports.

I’m sorry you are going through this, Shawna. Continuously in my thoughts, darlin’.

But that seems way to hot for summer. Maybe one made out of a light cotton instead of wool. Hmmm, I want to go to the yarn store anyway, I’ll see if there’s any lightweight stuff there and let you know what I find!